Massage as Foreplay

Foreplay is anything before the act of intercourse that gets you excited. Massage is a great prelude to sex. It also relaxes the body and mind...which can help relieve performance anxiety.

To get your man anticipating your the middle of the day...send your man a text message...
"Hot date tonight. 8 pm sharp."

When he shows up...
  • Dim the lights.
  • Put on some music.
  • Ask him to lie face down on your bed.

Music is the Food of Love

Choose some sexy and relaxing music to set the mood during a massage.

Some suggestions to get you started on your musical playlist...


picture of candles setting a sensual atmosphere

Candles can create a sensual mood.

Candles and dimmed lighting create an intimate private mood for your massage.

Check that the temperature in the room is comfortably warm. You may enjoy some fluffy robes to lounge about in.

The Main Event

picture of silicone lubricant

Silicone personal lubricant makes an excellent massage lube.

  • Slowly undress your man for his erotic massage. Don't forget the arousing eye contact. Give him your sexiest "I'm a bad girl" look. Tell him how much you love his body.
  • As you're undressing him...very slowly peel away some of your clothes too. You might leave on just a corset...garter belt and fishnets...whatever your mood.
  • Lead him to the bed with a sexy comment like: "I am going to make you feel so good all over."
  • Have him lay naked on the bed. Cover him with a sheet to keep him warm and comfortable as you begin. Fold the sheet down as your hands go over his body.
  • Squeeze a generous amount of silicone lube into your palms. Silicone lube is not oily, but it allows your hands to glide over his skin without sticking. Rub your hands together sensuously to warm the lube. Lick your lips to build his anticipation.

Position Yourself

Kneel beside him. Lean your body weight onto your closed fist pressed into his back. Rock your body back and forth to apply more pressure.

photo of a woman kissing the neck of a man

The nape of a man's neck is an erotic pleasure zone.

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  • Work His Forearms

  • His Treasure Chest

  • 5 Steps to Start Him Up

  • 5 Ways to Wake Up His
    Inner Thighs

  • Head of the Matter

And then after massaging his...
  • Forearms
  • Chest
  • Thighs
  • Head

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Percussion Techniques

  • Have your man lie on his stomach and straddle him...facing his bare bottom.
  • Push and tap your fingertips along his back and buttocks.
  • Bounce the sides of your hands along his back and buttocks. Alternate with light strokes from your fingers.
  • Ask him for feedback in terms of how much pressure he prefers.

Rolling Pin

photo of a pastry roller

Use a pastry roller on his less sensitive zones.

Since we aren't baking many pies at home is a use for that rolling pin in your bottom kitchen drawer. Or, if you don't have one...$4 at will buy you this pastry roller.

Run this baker's basic over his back and thighs.

Pummel His Tush

photo of the very sexy rear end of a man
Don't neglect your man's gluteus muscles.

Have your man roll over and lie face down.

Straddle his back facing his feet so you can focus all of your energy on his butt and thighs.

These muscles are among the largest in the body...yet they're often overlooked. Plus...they're packed with nerve handling them can be highly pleasurable.

A nice, firm butt massage can be even better than a back massage to relax his lower-body tension.

  • Straddle his legs. Gradually press each of your knees into the groove where his butt meets his leg for one or two minutes.
  • Firmly knead his butt cheeks with your knuckles. Use firm, kneading motions to stimulate his surprisingly sensitive gluteus muscles.
  • Make loose fists and rapidly pummel his thighs and tush with the sides of both hands in quick succession to awaken his senses.
  • After a few moan-inducing minutes...change to long, sensual strokes.
  • Intermittently tease him by slip-sliding your hands between his inner thighs. Tease him by roaming dangerously close to his package.
  • When you sense he's really fired up...spank him.

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