Lap Dance Secrets

woman in lingerie on the lap of a man

Captivate your man as his lap dance goddess.

Lap dancing can be as much fun for you as it is for your man. Nothing quite arouses a man like the sight and feel of a woman moving sensually on his lap.

Rules of Engagement

Rule #1 for giving the sexiest lap dance...at no time during your entire performance is your man allowed to touch you. The whole point is to drive a man crazy with anticipation for what is to come.

If he is allowed to just reach out and grab you anytime he wants during this show...it will kill the build up and anticipation.

Soundtrack Suggestions

Choose music for your sexy lap dance that turns you on. Choose something wildly sexy like...


To get started with your performance...give your man...

1. The Sexy Lean

  • Stand between his legs and lean your upper body forward. Arch your back and stick your derriere up in the air to give him a hot view of your body.
  • Put your hands on the wall above him...or rest them on the arms of the chair for support.
  • Tease him by inching your breasts closer and closer to his face...or dip forward even further and rub them against his chest. Don't let him touch.

2. The Crawl

  • Begin to crawl away from him. Let him get a good look at you from behind. Everyone looks fantastic bending over...your derriere will look hot!
  • Stick out your derriere and arch your back.
  • When you are a few more feet away from him...slowly and seductively turn around and face him.
  • Emphasize every inch of the movement as you go.
  • When you get to his feet...move your hands up his calves and over his knees to his thighs.
  • Maintain eye contact as you crawl up over him from the floor.
  • Slowly begin to press down a little on his legs.
  • Bring your torso up onto his thighs in one flowing motion.
  • Crawl onto him one sexy inch at a time until you're in his lap.
  • Put a hand between his legs for support and rub the insides of his thighs for a second or two.
  • Prop yourself up until you are at eye level with him. Place both your hands down on either side of his legs.
  • Lift your arms one at a time. Place your hands on the chair behind him at the sides of his head.
  • Rest one of your knees between his knees for support. Leave your other leg back to give you something to push on for leverage.
  • Arch your back and stick your derriere in the air for a few seconds.
  • Lift yourself up so your breasts are in front of his face. Grab his head and push his face into your breasts.
  • Whisper something sexy. Tell him what you plan to do to him later as you grind against his lap.

3 Favorite Lap Dance Moves of Men

1. Dancing Against Him

  • Stand between his legs...facing away from him.
  • To make his jaw unhinge...look back at him as you dance.
  • Bend your knees.
  • Lower your derriere so it is hovering over his package.
  • Put your hands on his thighs for balance.
  • Move your cheeks against his body...
  • In circles.
  • Up and down.
  • In a figure eight.

2. Touching Yourself

The key here is to go very slowly. It's all about the tease...since he can't touch you.
  • Lightly trace your fingers down the sides of your neck...making your way down to the outer edges of your breasts.
  • Pause and stroke your breasts.
  • Continue down over your...
  • Abs.
  • Hips.
  • Derriere.

3. Bending Over To Give Him a Hot Rear View

  • Stand in between his knees.
  • Bend over like you are picking something off the ground.
  • Put your hands on the floor or your shins.
  • Keep your legs mostly straight...so your derriere pops in the air.
  • Slowly come back up.
  • Twirl around to see his eyes popping out of his head.

Don't miss...The 7 Steps to the Perfect Lap Dance in Lap Dance and Striptease...Insider's Guide for more sexy secrets.


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