Blowjob Practice Secrets

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You can practice giving a blowjob by yourself.

It is possible to practice oral sex alone. Explore new blowjob techniques on your own to build your confidence before unleashing them on your man.

Your mouth is capable of delivering a wide variety of sensations. But you can't really know how your own mouth feels unless you try out some techniques on yourself.

Wash your hands. Don't worry about how you look...just concentrate on how it feels...because it is similar to how your man will feel when you do it to him.

First try the strokes...licks...and combinations of suction...that you'll want to incorporate into your oral arsenal on your fingers.

Use the sensitive hollow of your palm...see how your lips feel grazing...nuzzling...and kissing your hand. Press your flattened tongue against your palm...and vary the pressure.

Give your hand a long, slow lick...and repeat with several licks in different combinations...
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Use your tongue in different positions to change the feeling.

  • Flat tongue
  • Pointy tongue
  • Soft tongue
  • Flickers
  • Caresses
  • Firm strokes
  • Writing your name.

You'll notice your tongue dry out...then magically rewet itself. You may find yourself making a lot of saliva. This is what will happen when you go down on him...and the extra saliva serves as a helpful lubricant during oral sex.

Practice to Ramp up Your Skills

Build your sexual confidence as you build your repertoire of techniques...
  • Hold your index and middle finger together. Holding them stiffly...caress the opening of your lips with your fingertips...as if your fingertips were the tip of his penis. Slip them in slowly. Feel the wetness and heat of your own mouth.
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    Practice for more blowjob confidence.

  • Hold your mouth open with your tongue flattened inside. Gently thrust your fingers along the top of your tongue. It feels amazingly smooth and warm...and this is what he's going to feel.
  • Squeeze your lips shut around your fingers...and experiment with increasing and decreasing the suction. Men like to have their penises licked and sucked to varying degrees. So it's good for you to know the difference between a little and a lot of suction.
  • Move your fingers in and out. Feel your tongue move around on your fingers. Test the way the tip...middle... and edges...of your tongue feel.
  • Hum...and see how it vibrates your fingers.

  • Later on...you can repeat all your practice moves on him. Find out how much suction he likes by having him suck your fingers the way he might want his penis sucked. You can reproduce that suction on his fingers to get it at the level he likes...and to arouse him in the process.

  • Practice wrapping your mouth around a penis-shaped sex toy or a peeled cucumber. Do not attempt to deep throat any of these because they could get lodged in your throat.
  • A dildo with a wide base would be fine since the base would prevent the entire toy from slipping into your mouth. Select something as close as possible to the size of your man's penis.
  • Practice on it the way you would on a penis. These strokes and licks can be repeated on the shaft of his penis...his balls...and his anus and perineum.
  • If you are concerned about gagging...you can see what your comfort threshold is. Or try pushing it and learn to tame your gag reflex.


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